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Week 3 
20th-Sep-2008 01:22 pm
I think myself and goldengrove are starting to fade out a bit. We're forgetting to do stuff like drop the teats and all into the sterilising goo after feeding, and haven't updated our whiteboard of Doing Stuff for a day or two. Unfortunately its mostly just down to not getting enough sleep - not so much straight numbers of hours, but blocks of it so you feel rested. People are kindly asking what they can do to help, but apparently its not possible to do 4 hours of sleep for someone else, dammit.

Folks have been very nice :-) We've had a smallish stream of visitors, and the social contact has been lovely, as has the food that people have brought around or come along and cooked :) It means I don't have to go to the shops, spend time deciding what to have and then time cooking it - 30 mins of being able to take my feet off the ground and just chill is more helpful than you might think. (If people wanna visit, give me a hoy & suggest a day and time - I have no braaains for planning such things, but can react to other suggestions just fine).

Hamish has had his second maternal & child health nurse visit and is doing well. He's putting on weight and head size, is still pink and seems to generally be flourishing. He's also staying awake a bit more after feeds (without screaming) and just making random gurgling sounds and looking at anything that isn't my face. Unfortunately he's still not getting the breastfeeding thing right, and continuing to try and get him to do it while the only feedback you get is screaming is a bit discouraging. goldengrove went and saw a lactation specialist for help, and they gave some good tips, but what it seems to come down to is that he needs a bigger mouth. Continuing the whole trying & expressing until he gets there is really wearing, especially at 4am when he's deafening you in one ear.

We keep nearly cooking him - its easy to forget that the weather is heating up, and so he doesn't need a singlet and jumpsuit and wrap and a blanket. At least twice I've gone "ew, you've managed to pee all along your back" only to find its just sweat. Do not dehydrate the baby. He's currently sleeping next to me just in a wrap with the blanket tented above him, and seems much less restless than he's been (oh, and with the heater on, its cold).

Babies need more debugging info - any abnormal status is reported as "Error code 1 - SCREAM". This is behaviour we wouldn't put up with in software, except from Microsoft, so why has the situation not been rectified with children? I propose we genetically engineer them to have a number of different screams - something a bit whiny for needing a new nappy, the existing scream for needing food and something that sounds a bit panting for being too hot. I think this would benefit everyone.

Next week I'm going back to working part time for a while (until I run out of leave really), which could be exciting. I did a couple of days this week to try and get a feel for how it will go, and I forsee sleeping under my desk a fair bit. I figure doing 10-3 lets me get some work done, but means I'm not away from home and helping goldengrove with stuff - mostly it'll only mean missing one feed.

The surge of newborns continues - our lovely osteo Megan had her second child and first little girl yesterday, and my cousin is being induced in the next week, another cousin's partner is due soon, and then impish in early October (and that's not counting the ones we know already born this year). Soon we will have enough for a season of arena matches. FIGHT!

Week 3 photos
19th-Sep-2008 11:31 pm (UTC)
It does seem to be the baby season, three recently, three more I know of due next year plus another earlier this year. I feel it will be out of fashion by the time I reach my turn.
19th-Sep-2008 11:39 pm (UTC)
I think they come in waves - there was a burst amongst some of our friends about 5 years, and now this year. So you might be a trendsetter in another 5 :)
20th-Sep-2008 12:06 am (UTC)
Oh, I'm intending to get there well before 5 years. I'll probably come in just at the end of the current trend so everyone things that I only did it because everyone else was. Which of course is not true, we've had our plan in place for about a year.
20th-Sep-2008 01:20 am (UTC)
*laugh* peer pressure pregnancy? don't think so :)

you may well find yourself scoring bunches of 2nd hand stuff, which is neat.
20th-Sep-2008 01:29 am (UTC)
Sadly, that's what does happen at earlier ages :-(
20th-Sep-2008 12:14 am (UTC)
Baby debugging doesn't really come into its own until the primary school years. Fortunately they've developed some really good tools for it.

More seriously, I'm sending energy and good thoughts both your ways. And if there's anything else I can do to help at this remove, just say so.
20th-Sep-2008 01:21 am (UTC)
It depends on the child I think :) but not holding our breath.

Dance for our amusement? :>
20th-Sep-2008 01:29 am (UTC)
Well it would be amusing, that's for sure. But unsatisfying since you couldn't see it. (And no, I'm not videotaping it for you - that would be referred to as 'evidence') :-)
20th-Sep-2008 01:33 am (UTC)
"Exhibit A" :)

I dunno, there's not an awful lot people can do, even when they are up close. We're getting by - we're eating ok, the house is mostly tidy. We've watched an awful lot of anime while feeding or vaguing...
20th-Sep-2008 01:37 am (UTC)
I figured that, but the offer's out there if you think of something.
20th-Sep-2008 05:28 am (UTC)
Heya! Hamish is *so* cute :D YAY!

If it's any consolation, I could never work out the breastfeeding thing either when I was a bub - I would only ever take the bottle - and I seemed to turn out ok! :) Hang in there :)

Btw, we're so pleased you're both coming to our wedding! Hamish welcome at ceremony & reception of course! xx
20th-Sep-2008 07:05 am (UTC)
The fist eating pic makes me laugh - the number of times we've had to struggle to get a bottle in his mouth because he wouldn't move the hand out the way...

We promise to smother him if he starts yelling ;)
20th-Sep-2008 04:04 pm (UTC)
Hey, he may take to champagne flutes easier than the bottle.
20th-Sep-2008 06:55 am (UTC)
Tiny Benslie, too :)

Awww, cute baby is cute - he's looking a lot more aware, now.
20th-Sep-2008 07:09 am (UTC)
He even looks _vaguely_ in our direction. Unless there's something brighter around, like the sun.
20th-Sep-2008 08:41 am (UTC) - Debugging
Eventually the communication improves. I dunno if it is a parental update, or a kid one, but there comes a time when you don't even consciously think about it, you just KNOW that this one is "hungry" and that one is "tired", etc.

Big positive thoughts for y'alls!

- (this could be Caligari...)
20th-Sep-2008 08:45 pm (UTC) - Re: Debugging
Heh, I like the idea of a parental patch :)

Ta :-) We're doing ok I think, just venting out stuff when I post. Wriggle-monkey seems healthy and happy or at least bloated with food :)
20th-Sep-2008 07:41 pm (UTC)
I plan to pop in at some stage. Possibly when you start writing about getting more sleep :-p
20th-Sep-2008 08:46 pm (UTC)
2019? :)
Things will be in a bit of an upheaval again what with going back to work, so in a couple of weeks maybe... :)
21st-Sep-2008 01:07 am (UTC)
Just let me know :-)
22nd-Sep-2008 06:10 am (UTC)
If it helps their screams do gradually become different for different things, or at least we begin to recognise them better. Try not to drive yourselves too nuts with the breastfeeding thing.... despite what people would have you believe they don't die if you give them formula, if you want to continue then good on you both, but don't let anyone push you into it.
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